Monday, January 23, 2012

Tips for a sucessful marriage life

1 Be independent.
           Just because you marry, it doesn't mean you must embrace everything about your partner. Sometimes, you forget about how different you two are because you've been together for so long. Don't lose your uniqueness because it's the same thing that attracted both you and your partner in the first place. Try to take on different interests and encourage your partner to do so too. 


2 Never be angry at the same time.
                      When you're angry, you hear nothing else and you don't care about anything else. If you find that both you and your partner are angry, try to have some space. Calm down. Then talk. Be sensitive to each other's ups and downs. Talk through the problem and hear each other out. Abandon the whole world rather than each other. And never go to sleep without settling the argument. Most importantly, never yell at each other unless the house is on fire.

3 If you have to disagree, do it lovingly.
                    There will be lots of times when you and your spouse won't agree at all in some aspects. Don't make your point sound like a criticism to your partner. It doesn't matter who is wrong or right. Always bear in mind that an argument doesn't need a winner or a loser.
4  Never bring up mistakes of the past.
                            Whenever something goes wrong, do not rub past issues in. Don't dwell over the past such that you become blind with the wonderful things ahead of your relationship.



5Don't expect a drastic change. You must realize that the old dispositions happen to be die-hard more often than not. It's wiser to try and change those habits first, which seem less obstinate and would give way easily.


6 Never try to force your viewpoint on your spouse let he or she should feel offended.
                           Say your piece in an affectionate way. The best time to express your viewpoint is when your partner is in a good spirit. Incase you feel that conversation is on the verge of transforming into an heated argument, shrewdly change the topic of discussion and wait for a better moment to express yourself.

7 Don't assume yourself to be a know-it all.

                 We are often wrong when we are cocksure about being right. Always be considerate about your mate's point of view. Sometimes, it may be you yourself who is in the need of learning a thing or two from your mate.


8 Accept that your partner is like this only.            
              Don't be bothered by thinking how he or she should have been - it will only leave you disgruntled and will lead to differences, and then clash and gloom. Still, if you feel that your partner has certain very obnoxious habitudes, you can seek to reform him or her gradually, but you should maneuver the whole thing with such shrewdness that your loved one doesn't feel hurt


9 When an anxiety or an apprehension hangs heavy on you, share it with your partner.
                    He or she may not come up with a ready solution, but you'll feel lighter. And once you are at ease, you'll feel all the strength in the world to have a go at anything!


10 Do not nag -
               Never become a nagging soul in front of your partner. That might do the entire bit to spoil your marital bliss. Maintaining a healthy relationship is important and you can do it only when you value your partner's likes and dislikes. Nagging is really harmful for maintaining harmony in your married life.

11.Exhibit mutual respect -

               To make a marriage healthy and happy, both the partners should mutually respect each other and value each other's emotions and feelings. Both might have a different attitude towards life, but then that's where your persistence and love towards each other makes your marriage happy.

12.Maintain lucid (honest) communication -

                  For a happy marriage, you should have clear-cut communication between each other such that you can avoid all miscommunication. And as the words go - 'It's only words, and words that all I have to take your heart away'. Follow this, talk out your heart, do not keep any inhibitions and you shall rediscover the magic of your relationship every moment.

13.Be trustworthy -

                     Faith, trust and loyalty - basic foundations of any marriage, plays an important role to make the marriage happy. Never lie to your partner or do not suppress facts from him/her - that might land you in trouble later and augment misconceptions.


14 Share responsibilities -
                        To keep a marriage healthy, happy and rejuvenating, you should share and delegate your responsibilities among each other such that there is balance at work and home. Team effort always gives you positive results.

15 Believe in Constructive criticism -
                       Everybody, with their positive and negative traits makes this world a beautiful place to live in. one should recognize each other's positive traits and criticize the negative traits in a manner that it doesn't hurt your partner. 

 16  DON'T COMPARE
                There will always be a couple that is funnier, more attractive,  wealthier, nicer, hipper, healthier, smarter, more successful, and more glamourous than you two. But if you are constantly comparing yourself to other couples, you will miss out on enjoying how happy you are just being yourselves.


17Love your partner unconditionally.
To love unconditionally you need to follow the followings:
   1  Listen to your partner well.

   2 Be enthusiasm should not be lost in life.
   3 Be responsive in all your action.
   4 Self awareness is important.
   5 Enjoy every moments of the relationship.
   6 Be focused always in the relationship.
   7 Be methodical in all your action.
  8  Do not neglect anything in the relationship.
  9  Avoid complications majorly. Speak out things clearly.
  10 Do not drag things. Spend quality time together.     
  11  Go for a date in frequent intervals.
  12  Be efficient to manage time.
  13  Be personal. Show that you care. You can always try out new things to make the relation sweeter.
  14  Know what your partner likes and dislikes. Dress up well.
  15   Do not do things which your partner dislikes.   
  16   Never forget to make your partner feel loved. The experience needs to be enjoyed well by both of you. Remember not to pressurize in love. Do not be selfish when in a relationship.

Women need to receive
1 Caring: Women attach more value towards the emotional aspect of a relationship. Even the modern, independent women love the care and support of their male partners. Hence, women mostly fall for caring men.

2 Understanding: It is one of the most important factors of a successful relation. Women look for understanding in a relationship. So, lend her a caring and compassionate ear to hear her troubles. Respect: Don’t always try to have the upper hand in a relation.


3 What woman demands most from her partner is respect. Respect in a relationship also means respecting each other’s space in the relation. This applies to both men and women alike. You should allow each other space and also enjoy with your respective friends. It is not necessary to be with each other all the time.


4 Devotion: Women pay most value to loyalty. If you are in a relationship try to remain honest with your partner. Women have a keen intuition to sense the wrong in you and you can’t get past them with dishonesty.
5 Validation: If you really care for her, don’t waste time in letting her know about it. Women hate irresolution and indecisiveness in a relationship. If you are not confident about the relation you better avoid getting too serious with her. Take time until you are sure about yourself. Reassurance: Reassure your partner often. Women are emotional and tend to feel abundant easily. Also they are more serious about a relation than men. Being lovable is half the battle won. It is very important to become lovable. The right looks, the smartness, the confidence may not work if you are not lovable. Here we will discuss about how to be lovable. The tips and warning will surely help you. Being lovable is all about being attractive to others. 
Be nice
Being lovable is not only about the look. It is also about being nice and cute from inside. Be a nice person and automatically you will be a lovable person. The attitude matters a lot. The person you are will reflect in your attitude. This will make you a lovable person.
Smile Always
It is important to smile always. The popular saying goes like this: a smile is a curve which sets many things straight. It is important to keep a smile on your face when you want to be lovable.

Set the mood
Remember to be in the right mood to be lovable. A fight with your mom or dad will show up in your face. This will be an obstacle to make you lovable. So, try to be calm and cool. The jovial nature will let you be lovable. In a way you will attract people from all angles.

Be sensible
You need to be sensible to be lovable. The right gesture needs to be shown at the right time. Listen to good music. Interact with people. This way, people will get attracted to you. Remember that what you speak is important. So speak when required and speak sensibly. Being sensible does not mean that you should only speak sensibly. It also mean that you are soft, understand situations and know how to react.

Few tips to be sensible

Be sensible.
Be loyal.
Don’t gossip.
Don’t spoil your reputation.
Don’t be short tempered.  
Don’t quarrel.
Keep the smile. Share jokes.
Don’t panic. Don’t rush. Take control of the situation. Accept love. Give love. Pray regularly. Be positive.
Stay healthy. Converse honestly.
Keep promises. Do not be mean. Be generous and take care of others.
Having the positive attitude really matters when you want to be lovable.

Be optimistic and get the feel of life. Staying healthy is also a part of being lovable. Exercise regularly. . A healthy body is always the secret to healthy mind. Remember that if you are healthy from inside you will look good and feel good from outside.                
 We think that marriage would bring us joy!What a wrong assumption!
The lamp is not light.Buildings are not home.Books are not knowledge.
Only when one lives lovingly in a house,it becomes a home.Only when books are read,they provide knowledge.
So is it with married life.Happiness does not come from marrying a like minded boy or girl and being together forever.

                
              If a husband and wife walk in different paths with diverse desires,then married life would not be successful.What is important is how they utilize each other’s strengths for the success of their married life.
Marriage is also like a lamp.only when husband and wife light it together it would bring illumination…that is joy  saying, “

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