Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Posessiveness


            One of the biggest problems people report in their relationships is having a partner who is too possessive. Possesive behavior is a sign that the relationship lacks trust or that the possessive person is very insecure. When you act possessive you are sending a clear message that you do not trust your partner and that you are handling that mistrust by being controlling. This is never a healthy thing for you or for the relationship.
        Are you insecure and is your insecurity making you act possessive?  
What is possessiveness?

                 Possessiveness is the reflection of the inner feeling to dominate. Possessiveness in relationship is all about who wants to control whom. The less aggressive person among the dating partners, who gives into the possessive behavior of the another to safeguard the love, suffers a lot. In the end the suffered partner would have no other choice but to break the love.



Possessiveness is controlling the other person by dominance and inflicting a way of life on the less aggressive person to his or her dislike. The possessive person will be always on guard and will always be banged with anxiety. This results in more tension and make the possessive person even more possessive




Posessiveness tries to control the other person while
Love tries to understand the other person's views and allows those views to take shape.


Possessiveness dictates the path while
Love accepts the path of a person

Possessiveness is selfish while
Love is selfless

Possessiveness crushes the individuality of the other person while
Love allows the individuality to flourish

Possessiveness has inherent insecurity while
Love goes with confidence and optimism

Possessiveness is like a four walled jail while
Love is like the freedom one can rarely experience
Why Possessiveness kills the relationship?

             Both the sex are affected by the possessiveness of the opposite sex. The possessive people expect their partners to spend the whole time with them. They prevent their partners from keeping in touch with their families, urge them to cut all other relationships and stop doing other activities. In some cases the possessive people even deny the basic rig...
hts of their partners. The worst scenario of excessive possessiveness is the constant doubt over the true love of their partners and constantly monitoring their activities. The affected partner will find on one fine day that her or she lost the basic freedom of thoughts and no longer able to express the likes and dislikes of his or her own.
How to do away with possessiveness?Improve your self confidence and have counseling to do away with the feeling of insecurity. Trust your partner. Your dating partners is not an object. He or she is a real person with feelings, thoughts and dreams as you have., Respect your lover's or life partner's feelings and have the patience to listen to them. Being your life partner or dating partner it doesn't mean that they should not keep their individuality. A love relationship that is allowed to grow without fetters or suffocated feelings due to possessive aggression will last longer. Your partner will appreciate and get closer to you if freedom is allowed to blossom in your relationship. Show your love without possessiveness, Trust your partners integrity. Realize the fact that possessiveness will give you the result opposite to what you are expecting. Show your caring love with trustiness. This will bring your partner more closer to you.
Why People Show Possessiveness

... It is a striking fact that possessiveness is a major cause of broken relationship among the dating partners and married couples. Possessiveness is the reflection of poor self confidence. It is the result of low level of creativity and deep feelings of being unloved. The possessive people will always be with a feeling of insecurity and they afraid of the freedom enjoyed by the others. This feeling of insecurity drives them to think that they will be left alone if they failed to bind their loved ones. This thought induce them to become more aggressive with their possessive violent love
 
How to do away with possessiveness?


Improve your self confidence and have counseling to do away with the feeling of insecurity. Trust your partner. Your dating partners is not an object. He or she is a real person with feelings, thoughts and dreams as you have., Respect your lover's or life partner's feelings and have the patience to listen to them. Being your life partner or dating partner i...t doesn't mean that they should not keep their individuality. A love relationship that is allowed to grow without fetters or suffocated feelings due to possessive aggression will last longer. Your partner will appreciate and get closer to you if freedom is allowed to blossom in your relationship. Show your love without possessiveness, Trust your partners integrity. Realize the fact that possessiveness will give you the result opposite to what you are expecting. Show your caring love with trustiness. This will bring your partner more closer to you.



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