PARENTING TIPS

                                    Children can be grown without beating ,scolding or punishment.Through love and thought provoking way of presenting their mistakes in a creative way,they can be brought up into a good citizen.First of all parents has to understand the following points
1 Children can think.
2 Children has self respect
3 Children are different
4 Children can find options
5 Children can understand and solve problems
6 Children have their own tastes,opinon,ideas etc


                                      Parents generally superimpose their desires,dreams upon their children,this tendency has to be stopped as they have their own dreams and desires.This is crystal clear from the words of Kahlil Gibran


KAHLIL GIBRAN


Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.




Let us see how to express our feelings in a creative and thought provoking way.

Mom is worried of the child's handwriting as the child never left space between the words so it was difficult for others to read. lets listen their conversation


Day 1
Mom   :  oh my son write neatly leaving space between each word
Ram    :  yes mom
but there was no change


Day  2   Mom turned tricky
Mom   : Have you travelled in transport bus? how was the travel?
Ram    :  yes mom,crowded and uncomfortable
Mom   :  Have you travelled in private bus? how was it?
Ram    :   yeah mom ,its somewhat crowded and better
Mom   :   Have you travelled in a volvo bus? how was it?
Ram    :     yes mom, its luxurious to travel
Mom   :    the words also needs luxury so please leave space in between the words.


From that day onwards the child's wrote well  and the mom was happy .Instead of punishments the cleverness of the mom brought a change in the child.

                              Swami Vivekananda in his childhood days expressed his ambition to become a horse rider to his mother.His mother didnt laugh at his desire,instead she asked have you seen world's toppest horserider and showed this picture.

Let us see a talent scanning mother

                            Prasanth and Nishanth were cousins and also good friends.There was an old lady in their family who always praises her grandson Rajan.On hearing this praise,prasanth and nishanth started imitating the lady for fun.Prasanth's mom called both of them and appreciated that they imitated very well the lady and also said that you both imitate and enjoy within  us so that it may not hurt the grandma. This approach of a mother helps to grow the art of mimicry without showing a disrespect towards elders.